Archive for November, 2010

Know where you’re going in life…


There are several versions of this story, all with slight variations. The point, however, is the same no matter the culture. Enjoy!

A boat docked in a tiny Mexican village. An American tourist complimented the Mexican fisherman on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took him to catch them.

“Not very long,” answered the Mexican. “But then, why didn’t you stay out longer and catch more?” asked the American. The Mexican explained that his small catch was sufficient to meet his needs and those of his family.

The American asked, “But what do you do with the rest of your time?” “I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, and take a siesta with my wife. In the evenings, I go into the village to see my friends, play the guitar, and sing a few songs. I have a full life.”

The American interrupted, “I have an MBA from Harvard and I can help you! You should start by fishing longer every day. You can then sell the extra fish you catch. With the extra revenue, you can buy a bigger boat.”

“And after that?” asked the Mexican. “With the extra money the larger boat will bring, you can buy a second one
and a third one and so on until you have an entire fleet of trawlers. Instead of selling your fish to a middle man, you can then negotiate directly with the processing plants and maybe even open your own plant. You
can then leave this little village and move to Mexico City, Los Angeles, or even New York City! From there you can direct your huge new enterprise.”

“How long would that take?” asked the Mexican. “Twenty, perhaps twenty-five years,” replied the American. “And after that?”

 “Afterwards? Well my friend, that’s when it gets really interesting,” answered the American, laughing. “When your business gets really big, you can start buying and selling stocks and make millions!” “Millions? Really? And after that?” asked the Mexican.

“After that you’ll be able to retire, live in a tiny village near the coast, sleep late, play with your children, catch a few fish, take a siesta with your wife and spend your evenings doing what you like and enjoying your friends.”

And the moral of this story is: ……… Know where you’re going in life… you may already be there.

DK

Stress Managment


People worry about all sorts of things that cause extra stress in their lives. We think about aging and if we have enough for retirement. We worry about the mortgage payment. We worry about the safety of our kids or spouse when they are a few minutes late. We worry about if we’ll lose our jobs. We worry about our bodies falling apart or being consumed by sickness.

That’s a lot of worry! But think, what if you could determine how much you let stress rule you…or how much you rule over it.

Consider a few myths about stress first, from Loretta LaRouche’s “Relax-you may only have a few minutes left”:

  1. Stress is the same for everybody- WRONG! It is different for each person. What is stressful for one person may not affect another at all. As an example, having dinner guests over my be very stressful for the wife, but may not bother her husband one bit! (who’s doing the cooking and cleaning, I wonder!)
  2. Stress is always bad for you- NOPE! Stress is to life what tension is to a violin string…too little and the music is dull; too much and the music is shrill or the string snaps. Stress can be the ‘spice of life’ or the ‘kiss of death’ depending on how you manage it!
  3. Stress is everywhere-NOT SO! You can do something about stress, including taking a humorous approach to lighten the burden and give you perspective.
  4. No symptoms, no stress- DON’T BE FOOLED! Stress that is getting to you can camouflage itself through medications you may be taking, for instance. Then all of the sudden, it hits you!
  5. Only major symptoms require attention. NO, NO, NO! Things such as headaches or backaches that you haven’t had before, sudden heartburn or indigestion should not be ignored. These can be clear signs that something is starting to get out of hand in your life.

So what do you do? Let me give you a few simple ideas for managing stress in your life:

  • Laugh! The Bible itself tells us that laughter does good like a medicine! (Prov. 17:22) It’s a good workout, too! Laughing for 10 minutes is like doing 100 sets on a rowing machine!
  • Take deep breaths regularly throughout the day. This relieves tension and helps you relax.
  • Don’t try to do everything perfect! You aren’t God, so you won’t anyway! Make a list of things ‘not to do’!
  • Talk to yourself. Tell yourself good things about…you! Also, tell yourself specifically good things God says about you. Quoting scripture is great to remind yourself that you are somebody important to God!
  • If you don’t have to suffer, don’t practice for fun! Sometimes we suffer in area’s because we can’t say ‘no’ to things, which in turn effects our sleep, time with family, etc… It is OK to say no sometimes, even on the job!
  • Stop Global Whining! If you complain about something more than three times a day, you are whining. Either do something to change it or stop doing it!
  • Set realistic goals. I had a very depressed house-mother tell me one time that she just couldn’t get anything done. I asked her for her list of ‘things to do’ and it was 7 handwritten pages long-for that day! Unless you are the Flash or God Himself, don’t try to do more than 5-7 big things and 8-10 small things in a day. Feeling successful for accomplishing a smaller list is more productive that feeling like a failure for not accomplishing a larger list!
  • Don’t ‘Should’ yourself- Whenever you start thinking about what you ‘should have done’ realize that you are only consuming time and energy that could be used on what you ARE doing, making it less productive or effective.
  • Stop the Worry- Worry is a sin…did you know that? Yup, it’s in the Bible. Understand what is in your control and what is not, then realize that it’s ALL in God’s control anyway and you aren’t going to change that! Let Him be in control. He’s a better driver that you’ll ever be!

Smile, Jesus Loves you!

DK

Put the Glass Down!


Stress is everywhere and is no respecter of persons. It doesn’t care if you have a million things to do, if you are getting ready to have a baby or move, or if you just can’t take much more and want to beat your head against a wall. That wonderful little pressure comes from our job, our family, our friends, and ourselves. In small amounts it pushes us. Sometimes, even large amounts over short periods of time can drive us toward some accomplishment. But mountains of it over long periods can be crushing to our will and our health.

Thankfully God has a plan to de-stress your life. Its so simple that most people can’t do it…not because it doesn’t work, but because they can’t buy into it. Like someone handing you a blank check and telling you to fill in the amount, God gives us His anti-stress plan and we stand staring at Him like He has feathers for eyebrows.

What is this great plan? I’m so glad you asked!

Ps 55:22- Cast your cares on the Lord and He will sustain you…
1 Peter 5:7- Cast your anxiety (care) on the Lord…
    I like another translation that says here ‘throw the whole of your anxiety upon Him…’

Did you see it, or are those just hopeful words in your stressed out mind? The plan is there: Give your anxiety, cares and stress to Him…and then just stop worrying about it!

Really? That’s it, you say? That’s the best you can come up with? No deep breathing or relaxation techniques? No physical activity or mental methods to go through? Just…what, let it go?

You bet.

It is so simple, as I said, that we miss it. But here, let me give you a story to help illustrate the point of how stress can causes issues if we don’t do just this:

A lecturer was giving a lecture to his students on stress management. He raised a glass of water and asked the audience, ‘How heavy do you think this glass of water is?’ The students gave answers that ranged from 20g to 500mg. After a few moments the lecturer continued: ‘It doesn’t matter the absolute weight. It depends on how long you hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it is OK. If I hold it for an hour, I will have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance. It’s the exact same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.’

If we have things that cause us stress, having them in our lives to a point don’t really matter. As I said, it can actually motivate us. But if we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later we will not be able to carry on. We weren’t made to carry burdens. Christ carried them for us, and He asks us to trust Him with them.

So, try it out. It’s not that you won’t think about things anymore that cause stress, but when you start giving them to God and reminding yourself that He’s in control even when your life seems out of control, it takes the pressure off. And that can change your whole outlook on life!

DK

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