Archive for April, 2012

Invest in others


I believe that as a pastor one of the most important things I do is to invest into others. Even in the context of promoting Christ, if I make someone feel important and valued, then they are going to see Christ in a much different light than if I make them feel unimportant or devalue them.

I’m certainly not a master at this, but it is something I strive for. Be it the checkout line at Wal-Mart talking to the cashier, thanking the hostess as I leave after a meal, or speaking to a kid who doesn’t seem to be connecting with others, I look for opportunities to ‘touch’ others with a word of encouragement. While I don’t do it to gain anything for myself, the results are often amazing.

Just yesterday I went through a drive through and got a drink. When the lady at the window opened the window to take my money, I smiled at her and said “Hi. how are you doing today?” Simple right? She looked at me for a brief moment then said “Actually, it’s a good day. Thank you for asking”. And she seemed to straighten up and certainly began to smile.

Did that small interaction make an earth-shaking impact? I doubt it. But for her, having someone invest in her instead of just wanting something from her made her day brighter.

Here are some ways you can invest in others too. Even in your family, I suggest doing some of these things to make your spouse or children feel important and valued.

DK

Ten ways to make others feel important (and therefore valued and appreciated)

1. Use their names.

2. Pay attention when they are speaking.

3. Remember important dates and events.

4. Learn their spouse, partner, children’s (or even pet’s) names. (or if it’s your child, their key friends)

5. Find out what they do for a living (outside of serving in the church!).

6. Ask them about their interests.

7. Let them teach you something. (A hobby, a skill, or a life lesson.) (Especially with kids! Let them show you something they’ve discovered, even if you already know it!)

8. Build them up (sincerely) in front of others.

9. Acknowledge their experience and expertise.

10. Notice what they bring to the team (or family), how they are serving, and recognize them in some way.

Check out Highlights from Easter 2012!


Check out this Animoto creation that shows some of the highlights of our Easter service.

we had record numbers in Children’s ministry and 57 respond to the alter call, making Jesus their Lord and Savior! It was a great day.

DK

College Kids and Credit Cards: A Deadly Duo


Today’s post is from an email that I got that really had some good tips. While most people who read this blog would have younger children now, eventually they will get older and (hopefully) go to college. So, it’s good to have a plan in place before that time on how you and your child will handle the issue of credit cards. Education now, even as your child is in middle school, can pay big later.

Parents are the primary models for their children in spiritual things, so it only makes sense that you teach good financial habits, too!

Enjoy!

DK

College Kids and Credit Cards: A Deadly Duo
Steve Diggs

Less than ten percent of college kids carried credit cards in the 1990′s. Approximately 70 percent carry these little gems today. Those that have credit cards don’t just carry one card; five is the average.

The most striking aspect of this decline into indebtedness is that many of these young people are using their long-term college loan money to pay off short-term plastic debt.  Many young adults are coming out of college with so much debt they will likely be in debt for the rest of their lives! Unless they make a u-turn in a New York minute, many will never be able to save for their own kids’ college educations, give to others, or prepare properly for their own retirements.

Frankly, I get angry at colleges (even Christian colleges) that let the credit card companies set up their little card tables on campus loaded with $3.00 gifts: tee-shirts, Frisbees, and coffee mugs.  All they have to do to get one of these fabulous gifts? Sell their soul and accept a credit card.  In many cases, under present law they don’t even have to show a source of income.

With all that said, I am not suggesting that it’s always a mistake for a college student to carry a credit card. I am saying it’s time for parents to get involved, and stop letting the inmates run the asylum! If you want to let your Joe Cool go to college with a credit card, fine.  But consider doing five things first:

1. Set a low spending limit. In most situations, a card with a $500 or $1000 limit is more than adequate.

2. Decide what the card can (and, cannot) be used to purchase.  Is it just for emergencies? Can she buy gas with the card? What about cloths or books?  Make a list (hopefully a short one) and have both parties sign off on it.

3. Determine to pay every penny every month — no exceptions. This is the time when life-long habits are being formed. A “zero tolerance” plan makes great sense here. A credit card is not a magic carpet ride. It is simply an instrument for paying bills and keeping records. Using a credit card to buy stuff we don’t have the cash to pay for is the beginning of a train wreck.  

A little further education here: It would be wise to help your son or daughter understand that one of the reasons merchants like credit cards is because they know plastic spending is less painful to the spender than using real money. People using credit cards will spend on average 12 to 18 percent more than they would if they were using cash. The goal is to avoid the urge to splurge.

4. Every month, within 24 hours of the time the student receives his credit card bill, he promises to fax you a copy to review.

5. If any of the provisions in 2, 3, or 4 above are broken — the card is closed and canceled. No exceptions.

Tough love? Maybe. But there are millions of young American adults today who now wish someone loved them enough to apply these five simple rules a few short years ago.

Steve Diggs presents the No Debt, No Sweat! Christian Money Management Seminar at churches and other venues nationwide. Visit Steve on the Web at www.stevediggs.com or call 615-834-3063. The author of several books, today Steve serves as a minister for the Antioch Church of Christ in Nashville. For 25 years he was President of the Franklin Group, Inc. Steve and Bonnie have four children whom they have home schooled. The family lives in Brentwood, Tennessee.

Blowing up the Bunny


This Easter I have a friend from Nashville coming to do the service for my kids church. He’s an incredible teacher and very dynamic in his presentation of the Gospel. Our goal for the service is to show all of our kids what Easter is really all about…and it’s not a bunny!

That said, i have collected a plethora of various sized chocolate bunnies for our demonstration. Some as tall as 3 feet! Our plan is simple: Tell the Easter story and smash, melt, and even blow up a few candy rabbits as we demonstrate to the kids that Easter isn’t about candy or gifts, but about a Cross and a Tomb.

Yes, the sledgehammer will be out. The microwave will be cooking, and the m-80s will be popping as we send chocolate everywhere this Sunday. But as crazy and fun as that will be, there will also be a simple central theme…Bunnies don’t save you. Chocolate may taste good, but it can’t fix your problems. Bunnies many be cute to take pictures with, but they won’t take your pain away.

However, Jesus will. He will step into your life when you ask Him and, through the work of the Cross, forgive you of your failures and mistakes, and give you purpose!

Oh, how I look forward to this Sunday. The crazy things, the wild fun, the flying chocolate…and the hearts touched as they encounter Jesus, the real reason for Easter!

So stand back, this bunny is about to be blow up!

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