Archive for July, 2012

God and Tragedy


After the events of this past weekend many people are talking about why things happen the way they do. I’ve heard the questions again asked “why would a good God allow this” in reference to the shooting in Aurora, Colorado. While it is certainly a fair question, the answer is not as neatly packaged as we might like it to be.
Not because God is confusing or unable to be known, but because many people don’t want to accept the first basic fact about tragedy: We live in a fallen world, and it is fallen because of our sin, not a lack of God’s goodness.
Below is another great article from gotquestions.org about the subject. If you find yourself struggling with these questions, or you have family (children?) who are, please read this and look up the scriptures for yourself. God is always God, even when things seem impossible.

DK

Question: “Is there meaning in tragedy?”

Answer: When tragedy strikes, it is common for people to ask, “What does this mean?” When we witness some disaster or mass murder, there is a natural feeling that what has happened should not have happened. This innate sense of “wrongness” is a clue to meaning in these events. When we look to find meaning in tragedy, we must have the right perspective. We need to approach the question in a way that allows for a coherent answer, and this is only possible through a Christian worldview. Because God instills meaning into every moment and event in history, through Him we can begin to find meaning in suffering. The nature of this world lends itself to tragic events. Fortunately, God speaks to us, so that we can find not only meaning, but salvation and relief from the sufferings of the world.

When studying physical motion, it is crucial to understand perspective. Speed and acceleration are only meaningful in relation to some other object; this object is the reference point. The way in which the reference point moves affects our perception. The same is true in our sense of right and wrong. For concepts of good, bad, right, wrong, or tragedy to be meaningful, they have to be anchored to a reference point that does not change or move. The only valid reference point for these issues is God. The very fact that we consider a mass murder wrong strongly supports the idea of God as the reference point for our sense of good and evil. Without God, even the events we consider the most tragic are no more meaningful than anything else. We have to understand the nature of this world and our relationship to God in order to draw any meaning at all from the things we see.

God infuses every moment and every event with meaning and gives us confidence that He understands what we are going through. When Jesus instituted communion, He tied the past, present, and future together. 1 Corinthians 11:26 says, “For as often as you eat this bread and drink the cup (the present), you proclaim the Lord’s death (the past) until He comes (the future).” God’s knowledge of all events means nothing is insignificant to Him. If God knows when a sparrow falls, He certainly knows when we face tragedy (Matthew 10:29-31). In fact, God assured us that we would face trouble in this world (John 16:33) and that He has experienced our struggles personally (Hebrews 2:14-18; Hebrews 4:15).

While we understand that God has sovereign control over all things, it is important to remember that God is not the source of tragedy. The vast majority of human suffering is caused by sin, all too often the sin of other people. For instance, a mass murder is the fault of the murderer disobeying the moral law of God (Exodus 20:13; Romans 1:18-21). When we look to find meaning in such an event, we have to understand why this world is the way it is. The hardship of this world was originally caused by mankind’s sin (Romans 5:12), which is always a matter of choice (1 Corinthians 10:13). While God is perfectly capable of stopping tragedies before they begin, sometimes He chooses not to. While we may not know why, we do know that He is perfect, just, and holy, and so is His will. Also, the suffering we experience in this world does three things. It leads us to seek God, it develops our spiritual strength, and it increases our desire for heaven (Romans 8:18-25; James 1:2-3; Titus 2:13; 1 Peter 1:7).

In the garden of Eden, God spoke to Adam and communicated in clear and direct ways, not in abstract concepts. God speaks to us today in the same way. In some ways, this is the most important meaning to be found in any tragedy. Tragic events demonstrate much of their meaning in the way we react to them. C.S. Lewis said, “God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks in our conscience, but shouts in our pains. It is his megaphone to rouse a deaf world.” This does not mean that God causes tragedy, but that He uses our reaction to tragedy to speak to us. Tragic events remind us not only that we live in an imperfect and fallen world, but that there is a God who loves us and wants something better for us than the world has to offer.

How to Preach to Kids


Thanks to Mark Harper for this great and handy little guide on effective ministry to children. Parent or ministry worker, this tips can help us all!

Enjoy,

DK

Ten Steps

1. FOCUS – on one message per week.

2. THINK LIKE A CHILD – Send everything
through the kid filter.

3. TEACH IN A SERIES – This
will help your kids know where
you are going.

4. BE VISUAL – Use short films,
power points, objects lessons, and
dramas.

5. TELL STORIES – The best
preachers are good storytellers.

6. KEEP IT MOVING – Change
what you are doing every five to
seven minutes.

7. STAY CURRENT – If you
package an eternal message in
an old wrapper it seems like an
old message.

8. TARGET YOUR PEER LEADERS –
Your leaders are the oldest kids in
the room.

9. BE FUNNY – When people
laugh it opens up their heart.

10. REVIEW AND REPETITION –
Kids don’t get it if you just say it
one time.

Not a Fan


I’ve been talking about this book, Not A Fan by Kyle Idleman, to everyone I can around the church. But for those of you who follow and check in on New Generation Voice that aren’t part of Cross Points (http://www.crosspointschurch.com/) I want to make sure you know about this guy.

Kyle is the teaching pastor at Southeast Christian Church in Louisville, Kentucky. It just happens to be the 5th largest church in the US.

His book, Not a Fan, is one of those rare books that doesn’t just inform or entertain you, it will literally change your life…if you let it.

The first time I read the book, honestly, it made me angry. Some of the stuff Kyle says seems brash and just got under my skin. But, upon reflection I decided that it felt that way because there was something to what he was saying, so I read it again. The second time it was a ‘Ureka!’ experience for me, and the third time I was completely bought in to the concept. Here’s an example:

“Fans want Jesus to inspire them, but Jesus wants to interfere with their lives.” (chapter 2 pg 31)

No on the surface this seems like an simple statement, but when you really begin to think about it and process it, you have to consider what he says in light of your own life and relationship. We ALL want Jesus with us (well, assuming you are a Christian) and we all love for Him to ‘touch us’ or, as Kyle says, ‘insipre’ us. But when God’s involvement in our lives moves from the role of motivator to the role of director, we often find ourselves resisting. Why? Because we like control. Or at least the illusion of it.

I could go on and on with you about how this book punched me in the gut, turned me upside-down, and made me think long and hard about myself and my relationship with God…and at times I just didn’t like the challenge. But by the end, I had given in and accepted the challenge to be a follower, not a fan.

Go read the book, and join me.

DK

Do you work too much to spend time with the Fam?


Another great “stolen” post from my pal Sprad over at epicparent.tv (who just got a brand new website, so check it out, too!).
Enjoy.

DK

6 Tips For Parents That Miss Family Time Due To Work
Published on June 30, 2011, by ChrisSprad – Posted in Demons Of Parenting, HOME 1

Do you miss out on family, memories and special time with your kiddos because you work schedule is extremely demanding?

I have been there, done that and still sort of doing that!

Here is what I have learned…

STEP INTO THE PAIN: I encourage all parents to come to grips with the reality that this is the way that many live their lives.  We live in a fast paced, quicker, bigger, better, stronger, more efficient culture and that will never change.  So, we must stop When – Then’ing our life away.    “When I get this promotion”  “Then I will spend time with the family”.  The harsh truth is that the “then” never comes.  So parents, step into the pain and realize that you will live most of your life in the tension of spending time with family and getting the job done.

SEASON OF IMBALANCE: You hear many self help guru’s talk about balance.  You need to balance your time, balance your schedule, balance your diet and balance work and family time.  My encouragement is that you would be imbalanced!  If you have a season at work when it’s hot, you need to strike now and make it happen…communicate with your family and let them know that you are entering a season of work imbalance.  However, you must make sure that this is followed by a season of family imbalance…where you are spending more time with family and less at work.  I have never found the secret to living a balanced life, so I make sure that I live imbalanced.

QUANTITY MATTERS: Yes, the amount of time that you spend with your kids matter.  My friend Craig Groeschel taught me that “I have to learn to give up something I love for something I love even more”.  I believe that parents must step into this and give up television, sports, facebook, sleep, extra jobs, coaching, etc…  what do you need to give up so that you can spend more time with your kids?

QUALITY MATTERS: Yes, quality time matters.  I encourage all parents spend time with your kids doing things that matter!

HAVE THE “TALK”: So many employees are fearful to share what they really feel in regards to family and work because they are afraid they will be frowned upon, seen as a slacker, weak or will get fired.  I will never forget a conversation I had with my boss several years ago.  I sat down and simply told him I needed more time with my kiddos and that I desperately missed them.  He listened, understood and “forced” me to get the heck out of the office to spend time with my kids.  I know not every conversation goes that way, but for many of you it is time to simply have the talk with your boss and see if he can work with you to help you spend more time with your family.

GET ACCOUNTABLE: Call a friend right now and ask them to hold you accountable to spending more time with your family.  You must give them permission to confront you, speak into your schedule and possibly control your calendar.

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